Based on the shared meal system in China, the dining table is supposed to be the best place for reunion and communication, but most quarrels of my family were actually happened at the dining table. During a meal, my mom always gave me some outdated traditional women indoctrination. Articulating my grievances directly made the conflicts worse. Hiding emotions and pretending everything is going well made the family relationship strained. How can I express myself in the way that my mom wants to listen?