ELDER SS19
In Africa throughout recorded history, a boy is a boy and a man is a man, they are different entities. A boy is with his mother. A man is with men and elders and does what men do. A boy becomes a man only through some form of strict initiation ritual.
Before he succeeds in his quest to become a man, he will fail, he will undergo many painful experiences, he will participate in ritual ceremonies which often involve pain and endurance. He leaves his mother and tribe behind and ventures forth to seek wisdom and his destiny as a man.